Breaking down the Fears
The Real Fear
The Imagined Fear
The Power of the Imagined Fear Acronym
Future Events Appearing Real
False Evidence Appearing Real
Sit with those for a minute and see which of them fits better to your current fear or struggle. Future Events Appearing Real or False Evidence Appearing Real? I find that one of these two always fits and what I love about them is that they help me pull the fear out of the future where it feels big and scary and impossible to manage.
Finding Clarity and Calm
I pull it into the present and look at it closely asking myself all sorts of questions. Here are some examples of helpful questions to help tear apart the fear so you can hopefully minimize it or even find a lesson in it.
- Is this happening right now? Or…am I scared about something in the future?
- What real hard evidence is there that this is 100% true?
- Where did this fear come from? (was there a bad experience? or did someone implant this fear in me through their story?)
- How does this fear serve me? (Example: Is it showing that something matters more to me than I thought? or Is it showing me that I have insecurities that I might want to address further?)
- What do I have control over? How could I change the outcome that I am fearful of?
- What safety lines can I put in place for myself to help with this fear? Is there anything I can do or ask others to do that can make a little difference?
Afterward, I feel that I have a much clearer understanding. What once was a jumbled mess of fear is now much clearer lines of understanding and appreciation. Then calm sets in, and I get very clear on what I can do to turn those worries into warriors.
This technique is just my way, but I’m sure you’ll tweak it and make it fit your needs. I hope that this has given you some little “aha!” moments into how you could deal with some of your fears. I have created an excellent worksheet for all of us worriers out here. I don’t know about you, but sometimes I feel like I could win a gold medal in worrying!
Well, not to worry friend (ha!), my Worry Workout Worksheet will guide you and help you cut right through all the worrying to a lasting intention. So you can put that worry aside knowing you’ve got it covered with an action plan. Should your FEAR stem from some past emotions or events, perhaps the Write it Out Worksheet will be a good fit for you. If your fear rests with a particular person and your feelings towards them, the Never Send Letter is a goodie for that. If you fear is future based with worries of how to tackle something, then I have tons of helpful organizational worksheets for you. These are backed by tons of research, so I know they’ll provide some help to ya. And ones that help you find your strengths and inner awesome-ness! There’s a worksheet for everyone and everything, and I am always adding new ones too so check back often. If you’re on my VIP mailing list, you’ll get extra special ones sent to you that I don’t have listed here.
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